Test – What’s Your Love Language?

Love has many faces – and one of them is the way we feel seen, chosen, and truly valued. Some warm up through kind gestures, others through a hug, and some through affirming words.

Each of us has a unique way of receiving love and feeling truly connected. When you discover your love language, you begin to understand not only yourself more deeply, but also how to build more genuine, loving, and mindful relationships.

Many people go through life with their partner without ever discovering each other’s love languages, missing the chance to express love in a way the other truly needs. That’s why it’s so important to understand yourself and your loved one, to speak their language , and to build a relationship that nurtures closeness and mutual understanding.

This quiz will help you discover where you and your partner stand (based on Gary Chapman’s bestseller "The 5 Love Languages") and gently invite you to listen to your intuition. Don’t overthink it—just feel. Which words resonate most deeply with you?

What Are the Love Languages?

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch

What Each Love Language Means in a Few Words

• Words of affirmation: Love is felt through expressions of appreciation, compliments, gratitude, and encouragement.
• Quality time: Love is experienced through full presence and shared attention—no distractions, no TV, no phones, no other people.
• Receiving gifts: Small or big gestures that show you're thought of and valued.
• Acts of service: Support through action—help in daily life, care, and taking initiative.
• Physical touch: Hugs, kisses, closeness—physical connection brings comfort and love.

Love Language Self-Discovery Quiz

Let’s take the quiz to discover your love language. Under each pair of statements, choose the one that best reflects how you feel in a romantic relationship. Answer intuitively— there are no wrong answers.

A) I love it when my partner tells me they're proud of me.
B) I enjoy it when we spend time just the two of us, without distractions.

A) I feel valued when I receive a sincere compliment.
B) I feel special when my partner does something for me without me asking.

A) I find gifts given for no special reason especially meaningful.
B) I appreciate it when my partner hugs me, touches me, or holds my hand.

A) I like it when my partner agrees with me and encourages me.
B) I feel loved when my partner makes time just for me, even on a busy day.

A) I like it when I receive a gift that shows my partner was thinking of me.
B) I appreciate it when my partner helps me with everyday tasks—even the little things.

A) Touch makes me feel connected to my partner.
B) I like hearing words that show I’m loved.

A) I feel loved when my partner does something helpful for me without hesitation.
B) I feel happy when I receive a thoughtful, personal gift from my partner.

A) I feel important when my partner takes interest in how I feel.
B) I feel safe when we're physically close—hugs, kisses, gentle touches.

A) I enjoy it when my partner makes time for us to do something together, just the two of us.
B) I love it when my partner tells me how special I am to them.

A) I remember thoughtful gestures—when my partner helps me with something I didn’t expect.
B) I remember our warm moments of physical closeness and hugs.

Answer Key

Count how many times you chose A or B in each pair , and match them to one of the five love languages listed below.

Results by Category

• Words of affirmation: 1A, 2A, 4A, 6B, 9B
• Quality time: 1B, 4B, 8A, 9A
• Receiving gifts: 3A, 5A, 7B
• Acts of service: 2B, 5B, 7A, 10A
• Physical touch: 3B, 6A, 8B, 10B

How to Interpret Your Results

The type you chose most often reflects your primary love language —the way you most deeply feel loved. One or two others may also be important to you, but your primary language is the one that speaks love to your heart most clearly. Most people have a main and a secondary love language, so be sure to consider your second-strongest result as well.

No matter what your love language is, the most important thing is to know it and honor it—both yours and your partner’s. Each of us needs to be loved in a way that truly reaches us, deeply and gently. When we begin to recognize these needs—first in ourselves, then in our partner—we start building relationships rooted in understanding, closeness, and respect.

Invite your partner to take the quiz too. Share your results and talk about them with gentleness and curiosity. Be open and accepting of your differences.

And if you need deeper support, therapy is a space where you'll be truly heard and understood. This is just the beginning of your journey toward more genuine and mutual love.